depressedI then wonder about my own circumstances, and know that at times I've said that "it's just not fair". Yet, is that really true? I know I'm not at fault, but neither is the other party. Is it fair for me to say he or she is wrong because I don't get what I want? Subjectively, yes--I did all I could do and didn't get what I felt was the justified reward. Objectively, however, if I had been the other person, I would have thought the consequence perfectly fair. So which one of us is right? Neither, I suppose. Learning to accept that is very, VERY difficult.
Fairness is an illusion. Nothing in this world is really fair, it would seem. Nor is it unfair. Still, I seek to gain what I think I'm entitled to, when in actuality, that isn't fair either. Taking what I desire and "deserve", or even having it bestowed upon me through a stroke of luck, is a good feeling. Yet, someone else may find this unfair. What the hell am I supposed to do about that? As objective as I like to imagine I am, I cannot disregard my own feelings and desires, nor can I tolerate the idea of an existence where nothing ever goes my way. That's just not fair. Sometimes, this world makes very little sense. So, where's the fairness in that?
