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23 August 2003 @ 09:36 am
International Cute Symbol...  
Given the choice between sexy and cute, I'll choose cute nearly every time.

Those sometimes, I suppose, one is inclined to be the other. Then, I choose both.
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Mellenabsentmammoth on August 23rd, 2003 07:59 am (UTC)
Sexy, in the general usage of the word, does have a tendency to be used in a rather mindless manner (indicating a lack of mental prowess). Women in magazines and on television often seem to have to choose to be smart or sexy, rarely both. In fact, I once read a study in which women were asked to choose which they'd prefer to be called. Both was obviously not an option.

In this singular instance, though, I'm using my own personal definitions, which will always get me into trouble or save me from trouble. I'm cute and I know it, but I also know there are times when I can be considered sexy. If I have to choose between an outfit or look that makes me appear either cuter or sexier, I almost always go with cute. That's why I don't wear makeup. It's why I don't own a lot of tight fitting clothing. I enjoy my plain face and Fraggle Rock t-shirts. Once in a while, for special occasions, I'll get sexied up. Otherwise, I'd rather people say "she's cute" rather than "she's sexy".

I also think cute and sexy are states of being, both external and internal. I once did a piece for a theater class about how "pretty is more than a way of being, it's a state of mind". I think cute. That's part of the way I percieve myself, and so that's something I believe, volentarily or not, I project to others. Some women convey sexy in their walk or their language, while I'm pretty sure my bouncy walk and high voice give away the cuteness I feel inside. I feel cute, and I am cute. And, personally, I like it. It feels right, and I don't need to be sexy because of it.

So, I'm going with cute. Maybe for the very reason we decided above. Maybe because I just FEEL cute rather than sexy. Maybe because in my mind, I am cute, and I want people to see that. Sometimes I can be sexy, and I enjoy it for a time. Otherwise, it's pretty exhausting trying to be something I'm not.

Sexy gets a bad wrap, but cute is still the one I love.
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Mellenabsentmammoth on August 23rd, 2003 12:10 pm (UTC)
I wouldn't disagree with you at all on that point. It's probably another reason I'm not opting for "sexy". There are a few exceptions, but the masses of models speak nothing but volumes of blanks.

But let me tell you, the girls in Japan DO have waists like toothpicks. No way could I get in those jeans. My Japanese class all tried and failed, except for the girl from Vietnam.

I'm the best of both worlds, blond on the outside, asian on the inside, and all around cute! This is why I'm the international cutie.
glossolalia black: goddessautodidactic on August 23rd, 2003 12:19 pm (UTC)

You must be small. I've not been cute ever since I reached my current height (5'8") almost twenty years ago.

At this point, with the grey hair coming in, I'd rather be striking.

Do you look at all like Miyazawa Yukino?

Mellenabsentmammoth on August 23rd, 2003 12:43 pm (UTC)
Well, I'm more of a short and roundly, and while I'm almost 21, I'm often mistaken for a 15 or 16 year old. I'm not fat, just baby fatty.

Striking is a lovely word, as long as it's not hitting people. From what I know of you, I certainly think you fill all the internal and external requirements for said adjective.

I chose Yukino because she has a cuteness I feel is similar to mine. I'm not sure we look alike a lot physically, but it's the same vibe. I used to have a Faye Valentine scheme that I replaced because she was a bit moresexy drool than I am. Miyazawa Yukino fits me better as an idealized cuteness.

Maybe there's a similarity when I go super deformed though ^_^
I am not a robotmulcimer on August 23rd, 2003 02:04 pm (UTC)
Cute is always preferable to sexy. Always.
Mellenabsentmammoth on August 23rd, 2003 07:13 pm (UTC)
Cute can be sexy though, and sometimes I suppose, sexy can be cute.
Alex Staherskiintheblacklodge on August 23rd, 2003 04:26 pm (UTC)
Funny, I swear we just had this discussion...
Mellenabsentmammoth on August 23rd, 2003 06:56 pm (UTC)
We did. It inspired this post. Good Job!