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08 January 2001 @ 03:10 pm
Actual contact...  
As I said yesterday, there is no replacement for human contact, and while I don't mean physical persay, it made me think of a discussion I recently had with a very good friend of mine. He and I disputed over the idea of people holding hands. He feels it's a pointless gesture, something people do to prove to the crowds that they are a couple. In part, I see his point, but I am forced to disagree.

Holding hands, for me, is not meant simply a superficial sign of affection to the masses. In fact, rarely do I hold hands with people in public. I don't deny there are people who do this, by any means, I'm saying that is not what I do it for, nor is it the reason I like it.

When you hold someone's hand, it's a comfort contact. The way a hot bowl of soup is a comfort food on a cold day, holding hands is a way of showing affection in a way that isn't abrasive or overly sexual, but comforting. It's intimate, nonetheless. It's not meant to display your affection to the world neccesarily, or prove anything to your partner, but is a gentle way of sharing yourself with someone else.

Sometimes, when words fail to achieve the desired affect, just holding hands tells the message you're trying to portray. "I'm sorry," "I understand," "I'm glad to see you again," "I'll miss you," "I love you," "It's okay"...It can say any of these things and many more. It just lets someone else know that they are important, and what they may be going through is also important, even if you can't find the right words to tell them.

If anyone still doesn't understand how much meaning falls upon holding hands, I recommend seeing episode 5 of Kareshi Kanojo no Jijyo. If you don't understand by then, you never will
Mood: calmcalm
Music: Pogues - Fairytale Of New York
Kaysylverice2 on January 8th, 2001 04:06 pm (UTC)
"I *like* holding your hand."
Since I know that you understand where that came from, I won't bother to explain it...but it's true. There is nothing better than knowing that someone is there for you, and the best way to express that is with the touch of a hand...It's like a candle in the darkness...warming, comforting, and somehow reassuring. Because it means that you don't have to face the night alone.
ex_zelgadis381 on January 8th, 2001 06:12 pm (UTC)
Hey Whackmasta Mary, I just have to say that The Pogues' "Fairytale of New York" is an awesome song, good music choice. Have you ever heard "A Pair of Brown Eyes"? It's about me. :)
Mellenabsentmammoth on January 8th, 2001 07:01 pm (UTC)
No, actually...
I haven't heard that one. Wanna send it my way and enlighten me sometime Obi-Dylan?